Posted on May 14, 2021

Once upon a time I used to think that vision boards were a waste of time and just plain old stupid. I’ve since embraced Professor Einstein’s theory; you must do things differently; to get different results. So instead of a vision board, I’ve since adopted it’s Twin–A Goals Board. I set goals yearly that addresses every area of my life and I throw in a couple of pictures to keep me focused. I create one every year and I can attest how important it is to have one. It clarifies things, and as a writer, it helps me organize my thoughts. Just like Disney, with vision boards, wishes really do come true. A goal not recorded somewhere runs the risk of being overlooked because we may not even realize it when accomplished because we’re so focused on the next hurdle. Cheating ourselves from a full blown parade opting instead for a 2-second victory lap then onto the next hurdle. Or perhaps, the journey was so difficult it knocked the wind out of you, and all you could do is stay stuck on the difficulty instead of learning the lesson it came to teach.

I realize that this Pandemic has meant a lot of things to many people both globally and personally. Hands down we can all agree of how devastating this plague has been but for me it has served as a dichotomy. One that has resonated is the valuable time spent with God working on me. It has eliminated all the excuses and daily distractions so I could focus on my own hurdles, heal and learn from them.

Anyone who knows me well knows that patience was a dirty word in my vernacular but not anymore. I’ve been redeemed to embrace the virtue. My impatience didn’t discriminate and even spilled over into my personal life as well. Quarantine has slowed me down to learn so much about myself. Primarily, admitting that I was ready for a partnership again, identify the deal breakers, and then being confidant and secure in upholding them without compromising. I feel more empowered and conscientious of red flags that I would normally blow off. I’ve had more time to pause and assess someone’s character, and if they’re compatible before delving into something too fast since we’re all confined now. Before the Pandemic, it was just easier to play along to get along for the sake of impressing someone I really liked (which honestly isn’t very often). When you meet someone attractive, the focus is more on the shimmery than in the substance but for me it was still more comfortable than dating on-line. As an unapologetic introvert, I still cringe at the concept. When I confided in a friend how it has been unnerving for me how strangers have reached out to me on Social Media, she accused me of acting old, how everybody is doing it, and that I needed to catch up with the times. 

She’s right. I failed to realize the transition from personal to technology as our new norm and how it’s been a necessary & beneficial tool more now than ever. I’ve conceded to reassess my impression and realized that communicating on-line before meeting someone in person, may not be such a bad thing after all. Of course, with the assumption that the person isn’t a creep or serial killer & they are whom they claim to be. I’ve since discovered it’s a lot easier to be honest and authentic when you’re not distracted by their physique. Even if a relationship doesn’t manifest, perhaps a friendship can still cultivate from the encounter. Relationship experts attest to Communication being one of the five most common reasons why couples divorce or break-up due from either a break down or lack of communication. Strong communication eventually develops into a friendship, and a close friendship sets the foundation for a strong relationship/marriage.

So whether you create a Vision board, Goals written down on paper, Toilet Paper Tallies, Jpeg Journals, Digital Diaries, or recorded New Year’s resolutions etc..etc.. wherever it’s written, they all really do assist in manifesting what you desire. Like The Good book advises, “Write the vision, make it plain that he may run who reads it.” [Habakkuk 2:2] Anything not written, is subject to be forgotten about. After I clearly wrote down what I wanted in a potential partner’s character with the kind of relationship I wanted, and then allowed God to help me work on myself, that’s when the Universe started opening up. Even though this chapter in my life is still being written, I can tell by the caliber of people I’ve encountered so far, I’m getting real close.